My first post-Revoice Conference edition of weekendlinks . . . I’m so encouraged by the new lens through which I read everything I now share with you.
Updates to STRENGTH OF HIS MIGHT
- Revoice Reflections
- Updated Roundup: In Defense of Revoice
- Updated the Online Resources page
- Updated the Audio & Video page
“Classic” LGB+ Christianity
“The Nashville Statement says, ‘We deny that adopting a homosexual or transgender self-conception is consistent with God’s holy purposes in creation and redemption.’ This critiques those who, while honoring the Bible’s teaching to refrain from same-sex relations, still describe themselves as ‘gay Christians.’ Some signers of the statement have argued that our identity cannot be grounded in a broken state but instead must be grounded in Christ. This argument fails to appreciate the nuances of identity, however.”
“Although the phrase ‘grace and truth’ is shouted from every rooftop, we’re painfully aware of how difficult it is to practice in the context of real relationships and real conversations. . . . Jesus Christ is the one who took on flesh and lived full of grace and truth, and oh, how we need his guidance.”
“Yes, same-sex sex acts are inherently (not circumstantially) immoral (i.e., in the classic language, “intrinsically disordered”), and that is part of what Christians are given to say in the world. But we are always also called to say another thing, and that is this: The people who perform those acts, or who want to, are fearfully and wonderfully made. They are beloved of God, and they should be loved, honored, and and sheltered by all of us who name the name of Christ too.”
“People who don’t view their relationship through the prism of marriage are enabled to love others more deeply and more intentionally without sexual jealousy. In our experience, people in these relationships are far more likely to engage in platonic physical touch or healthy emotional intimacy with someone else besides their partner. This is so important to combat against loneliness and resentment.”
“There [are] a lot of the ways that we experience intimacy and desires for intimacy. So the desire to not be alone in your life, the desire to have companionship, to have close, intimate, emotional companionship—these are all things that we experience in relation to orientation that are not intrinsically sexual. To the extent that those desires are neglected or that we fail to integrate those into a theological understanding of orientation—we’re going to have unhelpful pastoral responses in trying to explain how Christianity can still meet the real relationship needs of gay and lesbian [people].
“We have to recognize that all kinds of loves will motivate us in the way we pursue relationships. And the way to be holy in those moments is to steward those loves well and not to reduce them to things that they don’t mean. Erōs does not mean sexual love. . . . So much of how have reconciled the faith has come through our existential crisis, and we are now thriving in our spirituality and in our relationships (some of us thriving in opposite-sex marriages). So many of us have found joy, actually, and contentment and a quiet confidence in God’s sovereignty.
“Our first value is explicitly the historic Christian teaching about marriage and sexuality. And so anybody who adheres to that is welcome at Revoice and, I would say, should find some kind of a home there. As long as it happens within or underneath that value and submission to that value, then the conversation can happen in helpful and truthful ways.”
Bless you prison, bless you for being in my life. For there, lying upon the rotting prison straw, I came to realize that the object of life is not prosperity as we are made to believe, but the maturity of the human soul.
Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, Gulag Archipelago
“Celibate gay Christians are among the most devout followers of Christ that I have met. . . . Celibate gay Christians experience rejection from the broader LGBT community that does not understand their self-denial, as well as from other Christians for not fitting the expected heterosexual mold.”
Relationships & Masculinity
Ed Stetzer: Singles – A Vital Part of Our Churches
“It has become every man’s job to prove they can be trusted, in each and every interaction, day by day and case by case. In part, because so many men have behaved poorly. And so, we prove our trustworthiness by foregoing physical touch completely in any context in which even the slightest doubt about our intentions might arise. Which, sadly, is pretty much every context we encounter.”